Saturday, January 23, 2010

Sad to announce...



...I will no longer be taking orders for "Cakes by Candace." It is just too stressful with a toddler. I decided it's more important for me to give attention to Kristie than to the cakes. Poor thing just whines and cries and screams the entire time I make cakes. Doesn't matter if I do it during nap time, takes me so long to prepare & decorate that she's awake for it no matter what. And the only thing that will calm her down and separate her from me is Baby Einstein. It's not ok for her to be watching tv all day, you know?

With her screaming and crying like that, I get stressed out to no end. That on top of the other stresses from cake decorating sometimes. I just get so stressed and so unhappy so easily, so when I do, it's hard to go back to happy, normal Candace. Then poor Jason has to deal with it. He comes home from work to a super frustrated wife who won't talk. I think about how much I would hate it if he was in moods like that as often as I am and it makes me cry just thinking about how much the poor guy has been dealing with. I can't do that to him anymore.

I hesitated to stop because cake decorating is something I'm good at - what am I without it? A nobody? I actually had those thoughts and couldn't believe it. Even if I don't decorate, I am still a mother to the cutest girl in the world - I still have that. And that is the basis of why I need to take a break - my little girl needs me. My husband needs his wifey back.

I still have some future orders - 3 wedding cakes included - but will not be taking any more. Of course I'll still do cakes for family here and there, just for absolute fun. I will miss the business dearly - thank you friends and family for all your support! It's been an amazing ride.

7 comments:

Rory & Chelsey Eddins said...

I love looking at your designs, I'm sorry that you are ending it, but I totally understand your reasons. :)

Zak and Allysia said...

You are more than a mommy and wife...you are an amazing person with talent, skill, desires, hopes, ambitions...it's just that there are times that we, as mommies, absolutely must put the needs of our family before our own. I think that when we reach the point where we can make the decision that is best for our family, as you have, we realize we are much happier for having done so. Doing and being everything for your family is hard, and especially stressful when you are expecting another little bundle. There will be lots of time for pursuing your ambitions, developing your talents, and using your skills in the future. And I don't mean when your kids are 18. Good for you, Candace, for recognizing when something needed to change and having the sensitivity and courage to act on it :)

robinbb said...

Taking care of a toddler gets so much easier, so I am sure you don't have to give it up for too long. I have an almost 5 year old and a recent 3 year old and life is so much easier because they are so much more independent. You are extremely talented, and I can only imagine you are talented as a mom as well. Your cakes are beautiful!

Petersen Family said...

Candace,
I had so much fun with you in class amkin cakes. YOu have such a talent! Just the other day I was wondering to myself how you do it with Kristie. You are such a great Mom. I know so any Mom's that get into their businesses and careers taht they can not see beyond anything else. You are to be admired.
I have been thinking about starting a cupcake/baking business. I am really going to do some soul searching now.

Wish you the best

Lauren

mr said...

Meanwhile, the death toll in Haiti rises to one hundred and fifty thousand...

Michelle said...

What you are describing is exactly my life. :) I write blogs for a company in UT and it is really hard not to be stressed, not to get sad/grumpy that you don't have time to actually do your job because you have babies to take care of. I am really grateful that I found a way to work from home and still take care of my kids, but it does take a lot of work. I tried to get my work done during nap time, but it is so unreliable that I just have to do it before babes wake up and after they go to sleep (which is 2 or 3am for Elena... yeahhh). Once the kids are up, however, I take off my entrapeuner hat unless I get a babysitter who can play and give them attention until they go to bed at night. It's hard work and I totally feel you. I now know I do not handle stress well, on top of no sleep, and a baby that cries all the time. :) So I agree-the best way to become more rational/less emotional is to take down the stress level.

Padilla Fam said...

you are great at making cakes! and maybe when the kids are older you can continue making your cakes as your business.